“Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women, who have her back.”Anon
We have all heard how women are famously difficult to get along with, a sentiment held by a lot of women. I for one have struggled with female relationships partly because I don’t necessarily feel like I fit in or relate to most women. So I have always preferred the company of guys. However over the years, I have come to appreciate the importance of having good female relationships. If I’m being honest a good man may come close to understanding you and all the little things you may struggle with or find joy in but let’s face it there are some things only a woman can understand. Here are the four female relationships I have come to value.
- Mother figure: could be your literal mother (biological or adopted) or someone you view in that capacity. They are wise, dependable and have probably been through a lot of what you are going through and so have really good advice for when you are stumped and have no clue what to do next. Sometimes mother-daughter relationships are far from perfect and can be strenuous but when it really comes down to it, there are many times in your life when their counsel and experience will come in handy.
- Sisterhood: these are your good weather-bad weather friends. They could literally be your sisters or just really good friends that turn into family. Why are they important? Because they know you and still love you. I mean which girl doesn’t want that? They will let you have it when you are being unreasonable or just plain foolish, help you out when you’re in a tight spot, laugh with you, cry with you and support and cheer you on. When you do well, they will be genuinely happy for you and we all need a bit of that.
- Fellow moms: They are a walking resource center and vent-all-you-want-machine. I can’t tell you how valuable this particular demographic of female friends is to me. Every time I start to think I’m a horrible mom, or simply less than perfect, they remind me that I am not alone, and that sometimes you just need to cut yourself some slack and not take things so seriously. This one friend totally made my transition into motherhood so much easier just by being there and giving me all these really helpful pointers. (I love you Dee!!!)
- Mentor: A study showed that 89% of women set more ambitious life goals in the presence of other women they admired than they did when contemplating them alone. 77% chose greater aspirations in the aspects of life they deemed most important. Something inside you shifts when you interact with someone who you admire. Especially when that someone is a woman just like you, has probably had to overcome the same obstacles as you, and has done it successfully. We all need someone to remind us that the thing we thought was impossible, can actually be done; Someone who will push us and encourage us when we want to give up. If there is someone who inspires you, someone you would like to learn from, do not be afraid to approach them and ask.
Whereas these are great relationships to have, it does you no good if they are toxic, dysfunctional and tear you down instead of building you up and supporting you. Choose wisely because our relationships can either improve our lives or destroy everything.The focus should be on building healthy relationships because You deserve it!
Live your best life always.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate you more than you know! I hope this and any other articles you do read will inspire you or help you somehow.
Have an awesome weekend!